Make More Friends at the Office with 6 Etiquette Tips



In many companies, good etiquette is nonexistent and office co-workers fail to make friends of one another. Lack of trust and turmoil is seemingly evident everywhere.

Doesn’t it make sense to get along with your coworkers?

For five days a week, you spend more than a third of your time at the office. You don’t have to like everyone, but it’s best to be respectful, and assertive versus aggressive. That makes for good office relationships.

business woman ID-100109224There are ample opportunities for agreements and disagreements.

After all, it’s not uncommon for people to disagree.

For career success, your image is important.

To keep your reputation intact, it’s best to be known for cooperation, fun and mutual support.

For best communication, common courtesy is important.

If you’re good at making friends, chances are you’re influential.

To make more friends at the office, here are six etiquette tips:

1. You don’t have to have the last say.

Know-it-all people are annoying – really annoying. So don’t always act as if you have to have the last say.

If you have a different opinion than someone else, you don’t have to always be right. People are unpopular in part because they are thin-skinned and get defensive. In matters of disagreement, you can choose to disagree and let it go.

A typical good response: “Hmm. I didn’t see it that way.”

When you make a mistake, it’s also unproductive to deny your role or to try to blame somebody else. Admit your mistake, apologize and devise a solution. That’s what respected people do.

2. Don’t criticize others publicly.

If you have a legitimate criticism of a co-worker, discuss it privately. No one likes a big mouth or a snitch.

You can compete with your peers, which is common especially in sales or among workers competing for a promotion or raise. But it can be a friendly competition.

When a co-worker is successful, be gracious with your congratulations. Don’t change the subject back to you. You will have ample opportunity at the right occasion for your self-promotion.

Otherwise, the person will notice your puffery and take offense. Being happy at someone else’s success is a hallmark of maturity.

3. Be a good listener.

Good conversationalists are good listeners. You will actually enhance your chances at influencing others if are a good listener.

An unfortunate common trait of a bad conversationalist is the use of the phrase, “Yeah, but…” People who react or interrupt others with “yeah, but” are seen as negative.

“Confidence is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to get back.”

-Drew Stanton

It’s no secret that the best salespeople or leaders ask open-ended questions and then listen carefully to the answers. They let people talk without interruption.

An open-ended question differs from a close-ended question. An open-ended question prompts the person to talk and explain. A close-ended question will only get you a close-ended answer, a “yes” or a “no.”

4. Don’t be a people-pleaser in making commitments.

Showing a community spirit is to be encouraged. It’s great if you’re empathetic about people less fortunate than you.

You’re likely to be asked to help others, especially in what I call the stewardship season – the holidays in the fourth quarter. However, don’t make the mistake of over-committing. Carefully select what and whom you will help. If you have to decline to help, you can say no nicely.

5. Avoid water-cooler gossip.

Trustworthy people avoid water-cooler gossip. Conversely, negative people who criticize others aren’t to be trusted – they will be sarcastic about you when you’re back is turned.

Be inspiring by aspiring – to be trustworthy.

Remember the adage: “What goes around comes around.”

6. Avoid profanity.

People who swear a lot do so because they’re negative. Civility counts a lot at the office. In 90 percent of your conversations, there opportunities to use words, such as “thank you,” “please” and “you might wish to consider.”

Oh, and by the way, the above tips are common techniques used by confident professionals – who are promotable people. These are some of the characteristics of people who succeed as the best managers and even leaders.

So, if you want to get ahead, start using these techniques.

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“Confidence is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to get back.”

-Drew Stanton

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Author Terry Corbell has written innumerable online business-enhancement articles, and is also a business-performance consultant and profit professional. Click here to see his management services. For a complimentary chat about your business situation or to schedule him as a speaker, consultant or author, please contact Terry.


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